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Sunday Stealing: The Heaven Eleven Meme

Saturday 9: You've Lost That Lovin' Feelin'


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1. In a relationship, have you ever hung in even when you knew for sure it was over?

Just once, yes. Way too long, too. What a waste of time that was.

2. If you had the ability to perpetually alleviate any pain on your body, what would it be?

Migraines and any other headaches. Those are the worst, for me.

3. What place would you visit if money were no object?

I'd go all over Australia. Ahh, to dream...

4. What is one thing you would love to change about yourself?

Physically, I would get rid of all the extra skin left over from losing over 200 lbs. If that's not what you meant, then I would take away the scourge of bipolar disorder and all the problems that come with it.

5. Do you think your parents were too strict growing up?

Hah. Yes and no. That's a complex question. I had an abusive childhood, and that's all I want to say about it right now. For a long time, I had concluded that I raised myself, but now I realize they did raise me - they just did a shitty job of it, mentally speaking.

6. In general, how many old friends do you have that you talk to at least once a year?

I'm going to call anyone I've known since elementary school or longer an old friend, so I would have to make that number at least 20-25, now through the magic of Facebook. I have had a lot of friends come and go from my life, and I thought it was a personal fault of mine (and maybe it is), until my dad made me realize this is not uncommon and happened to my dear, long-departed mother as well. And I have had a LOT of long-term friends, so... it all comes out in the wash. But you probably didn't expect or desire that long of an answer.

7. What was the last compliment you received?

Sophia told me she liked my shirt (she's my 6yo). lol

8. Have you ever told someone you loved them but didn't really mean it?


9. In your opinion, would it be harder to lose someone close to you more as a child or harder as an adult?

Honestly, I must be stupid, because I don't really understand the question the way it's phrased. So I'm going to interpret it as, "Would it be harder to lose someone close to you while you're a child, or as an adult?" and I'm going to say that "it depends." I've lost my mother at a very young age (7), and I've lost my son as an adult (28, when he was 3 days old), and I've lost a multitude of others along the way. Obviously those two stand out as major losses, though, and the pain is not quantifiable. The only thing I can is that it's impossible to get over either, it's impossible to make sense of either, and all one can do is understand that it's all a part of life.

On that somewhat sad note, have an excellent weekend.