Hey there, y'all. Me again. I hope you're doing well on this June Saturday evening.
I am troubled, but I am doing as well as can be expected.
You see, I am an extreme empath. I want to be an ally for everyone who is marginalized. And of course, this is the month generally allocated for Pride celebrations, and I have two LGBTQ+ daughters. And of course, we are seeing nationwide international protests and demonstrations to bring more light to the causes of white privilege and institutionalized racism. For my entire adult life and then some, I have been an ally for the Black Lives Matter movement even before it was named such a thing. I don't want to be "just" an ally anymore. Nor an accomplice. I want to be a co-conspirator.
And so that means, you might ask, why I am I doing this meme, right now, in this time, with this frame of mind? It is because, as I said, I am an extreme empath. I generally feel all the human emotions more strongly than not just the average human, but even more than the average empath. Sometimes all at once! And so I can tend to get overwhelmed and need a mental break.
This is that break.
If you are not already locked in to some part of this current movement, I ask that you find out how you can become involved. Learning about privilege and prejudice is important (if you are white, generally), and here is a good TEDx Talk to get started. But it's only a start. And I cannot promise there is an endpoint.
But for now, link up here to join in on Sunday Stealing, and I promise I will try not to make my post so heavy.
Would you rather work in a group or work alone?
I would, by far, rather work alone. I care far too much about the grade to trust anyone else to do any parts of the assignment. I don't know what's worse: having them have to make some contribution and therefore, I can count on my grade to go down because of shoddy work, or doing all the work myself and getting an excellent grade that I then have to share with someone who did nothing.
Would you rather be stuck on an island alone or with someone who talks incessantly?
I am the person who talks incessantly. (You can ask literally anyone who knows me.) If those are the only two choices, I'd rather be alone. Both would drive me crazy, but I think constantly being interrupted would edge out the other one!
Would you rather be too hot or too cold?
I really can't answer that. Neither is good for me. Ever since my gastric bypass surgery in 2009, my internal thermostat is broken (common), and I cannot regulate it myself. If I get too hot, because I have Ehlers-Danlos Syndrome, I can quickly overheat and will pass out. If I get too cold, because I have Lyme arthritis and other joint issues, it becomes more painful to exist. But I don't know what that "perfect" temperature might be, and regardless, there are four other people in my house who will certainly be uncomfortable if I find it!
When you’re old, would you rather die before or after your spouse?
Seeing that "simultaneously" is not a choice, I'd rather go first. That man aggravates the absolute crap out of me, but I don't want to live a moment without him. And we want to turn into trees when we become old, with trunks intertwined and forever together.
Would you rather have a cook or a maid?
I'd rather have a maid. I like to cook.
Would you rather be the youngest or the oldest sibling?
I've never been anything but the youngest child, so I'm not sure. I think in any other family, it would have been great. In my case, it meant I was held captive the longest and received the most brutal treatment.
Would you rather get rich through hard work or through winning the lottery?
That's kind of a loaded question for me, because I have no real desire to be rich. On the other hand, I love a lot of things which, unfortunately, I need money to do and obtain. If I were get rich, I would prefer it to be through my own blood, sweat, and tears, and not through some way I did not really earn. And I would love to then become philanthropic. But money itself, and the accumulation of a lot of it, has never been an interest for me.
Would you rather have a 10-hour dinner with a headstrong politician from an opposing party, or attend a 10-hour concert for a music group you detest?
I could not handle ten hours of dinner, an occasion I try to keep pleasurable and peaceful, with such a politician. Of course, I imagine Trump. Nope, no thanks. Not even if you paid me with all of his proclaimed wealth. But I think that there is always something I could find that I enjoy with most any music. I do not like heavy metal. I do not like death metal. But in October 2019, when I was driving my mostly-sleeping family home from camping at Craters of the Moon National Park, I accidentally found myself listening to the newish song "Unsainted" by Slipknot. I definitely despise their music, for the most part, but I made myself listen to it and found that this song, these lyrics, really struck a deep chord within me. So there's that.
Would you rather be an Olympic gold medalist or a Nobel Peace Prize winner?
If I was born with any athleticism whatsoever, my answer might be different, but I wasn't, so it's not: Nobel Peace Prize, please!
Would you rather have a desk job or an outdoor job?
Oh, I'd easily pick an outdoor job, 100 times out of 100. That's one of the reasons I eventually left my PhD program: I realized I'd be behind a desk working on papers, grants, etc. far more than I'd actually be out in the field. I'd rather be in the field.
Would you rather live at the top of a tall NYC apartment building or at the top of a mountain?
Can I please have a penthouse in Manhattan?
Would you rather have Rambo or The Terminator on your side?
Neither. I'd rather have Linda Hamilton's Sarah Connor from Terminator.
Would you rather be proposed to in private or in front of family and friends?
Either way is fine, as long as I still end up with my guy! ♥
Would you rather have to sew all your clothes or grow your own food?
I've tried both and wasn't instantly great at either, so I kind of gave up. I think I'd be more motivated to grow my own food, though, and I'd love to start with a stunning vertical garden.
Would you rather hear the good news or the bad news first?
I'd rather get the bad news first, so I can quit fretting and worrying and get on with the good news.
Would you rather be your own boss or work for someone else?
It would depend entirely upon what I'm doing. In either case.
Would you rather have nosy neighbors or noisy neighbors?
At this point, I'd rather have nosy neighbors. Our little dogs bark at anything that moves outside, and that gets to be too much, y'know?
Would you rather be on a survival reality show or dating game show?
Oh, the latter, I guess. I'd never survive the first one, although I'd prefer it in theory!
Would you rather be too busy or be bored?
I'm never bored. I don't know how to be bored, and I prefer it that way.
Would you rather watch the big game at home or live at the stadium?
Live is so much more fun!
Would you rather spend the day with your favorite athlete or you favorite movie star?
I don't have a favorite athlete, so...
Would you rather live where it is constantly winter or where it is constantly summer?
I've done both and definitely prefer the "always summer" plan. Can I please go back to Miami now?!
Would you rather travel the US and see the sights in a motor home or by plane?
If this can be our RV, then I'm all-in!
Would you rather be a little late or way too early?
I despise being late. I'd rather be early every single time, please!
Would you rather have an unlimited gift certificate to a restaurant or a clothing store?
I think I'd take the one for clothes. A restaurant typically has a limited menu, and I have a very limited, specific diet. On the other hand, fashion is constantly changing, and I could never get bored. (I'd prefer it be to a thrift store, though, so I'm not supporting the environmentally-irresponsible textiles and fashion industry so much.)
Would you rather date someone you met online or go on a blind date?
Well, I've done both, and the I'm in my 20th year of marriage to the last guy I met online... so I'd say it worked out!
Thanks for the diversion, Bev & gang! I'm going to try to swing back around later and visit y'all.
But for right now, I've got to prepare for the week ahead. Stay safe, stay well, stay abreast of current events and try to give a damn. Love y'all.